Creativity Kiosk: Stubborness


When your child is stubborn and drives you up the wall, do you see it as a positive trait or a negative? You may be surprised to learn that your child is in good company!

I have a friend who has a dream to be a successful novelist. When she told others what her dream was, they replied, “But you’ve got a good job right now. Why would you want to do something else? What makes you think that you could write a book?” Read more.
In a way, these nay-sayers had a point. My friend is a guru in academic circles. She makes good money. She gets on well with the people she works with. And to spend energy on writing a book instead of doing research could jeopordize her current success.

Those are good reasons to put the dream aside.

Or are they?

Einstein was a nobody who worked in a patent office. At 25, looking at his past, nobody would have predicted his future. His own parents wondered whether he was mentally challenged. His teachers predicted failure for him. He was expelled from school and failed his university entrance exam. He was rebellious against authority. And he so disliked his first violin teacher that he hit him with a chair. Then he took up with an older woman and got her pregnant out of wedlock (something you just didn’t do in those days). He wouldn’t listen to his parent’s advice….

And the list goes on and on and on.

But what comes out is that Albert was STUBBORN. He believed he was right when everyone else told him he was wrong. And in learning, instead of looking to the past, he dreamed about the future.

Who was wrong? Albert? Or the nay-sayers?

Going back to the story about my friend, when she told me that she wanted to write a best-selling novel loosely based on her own life, and all her friends had pooh-poohed her. But she was going to do it anyways, and prove them wrong.

I said, “Great. If you really want to do it, then stick with it. But send me a few chapters as you know that I love encouraging new writers.”

When I read her first three chapters, I saw that they were rough – but could be polished. The emotion, the story was there. The editing could come later. So I encouraged my friend. She joined a creative writing class at the university where she teaches. And her professor recently told her work was comparable to the award-winning Angela’s Ashes.

Is my friend going to be a best selling author? I have no doubt about it. Her book is going to make millions of people laugh and cry.

But if she hadn’t been stubborn, then she would have given up and not continued.

She had a dream. She refused to listen to nay-sayers. And she dug her heels in and did it anyway.

Do you have a dream? Don’t listen to the nay-sayers. It’s your dream, not theirs. Your life, not theirs. Your vision, not theirs.

Be stubborn. Perhaps you will change the world!

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